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What Is Your Boundary Blueprint?
When someone asks you to do something that you don’t want to do, do you politely decline their invitation or do you say yes even though you want to say no? Do you lend money to people although you know...
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He Told Me I Could Either Sleep My Way to the Top or Be a B*tch!
At 21 years old I landed my first job in Hollywood as an assistant at a big agency. Part of the orientation process was meeting with a senior agent for mentorship. You can imagine that I was pretty...
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Do You Prefer Childlike Wonder or Adultlike Wonder?
Recently, I was at a dinner party, and a new acquaintance told me that he wanted to cultivate a life of childlike wonder and adventure. I was intrigued. What an interesting aim. I was particularly...
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There’s MORE! Reach For it, Ask For it, Own it.
Just a few years ago, as I trotted downstairs to my home-based Pilates studio to see my first client of the day, thoughts began swimming in my brain. I thought, what’s next? Is there more? Don’t get...
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Four Steps to Moving Mountains and Receiving the Universe
There’s nothing like a double whammy anniversary for making you look back at that time last year. Especially when it’s a milestone birthday of the big 4-0 coupled with your first wedding anniversary...
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How Judging Can Make You a Better Person
This is the first part of a three-part series about judgments. I love to dance. I took ballroom dancing classes, rock & roll dancing classes, I went to dance parties during university where I’d be...
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What to Do About the Self-Sabotaging Voices In Your Head
As women, it’s easy to let our insecurities and self-doubts to take over. Sometimes, those feelings of insecurity and doubt can get so loud, they drown out the rest of us, taking on a role that’s way...
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What Motivates You to Take Action?
School taught us to answer a simple question, “will this be on the test?” If the answer is no, we’ve got no time for it. Work taught us to fear the boss and the review and our performance ranking. And...
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The Gift of Life
Did you know there are close to 100,000 people in the United States currently on the waiting list for a kidney transplant? Or, that another name is added to the national transplant list every 10...
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This Is Comedy: Gary Gulman Breaks down the Best Joke in the World.
When Patton Oswalt, one of the top comedians over the past several decades, was going through the worst experiences of his life this past year, he wrote an entire post about one joke Gary Gulman made....
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Addicted to Productivity, and the Courageous Act Of…Stillness.
Our society is addicted to productivity. We think productivity increases our value as a human. And we want to be valued and loved. So…we become addicted to productivity. Which means… being still is an...
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All You Want From Life Starts in the Same Place
The most important lesson of my life has been that I can only experience as much good in life as I allow. Plain and simple. This isn’t how I’ve always operated. I used to be the one with the detailed...
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Transformation Begins with Incubation, Not Activity.
The trees in my backyard acknowledge the cooler temperatures in two ways. One likes to drop its leaves overnight, while the other holds on, slowly changing its colors, shedding a few leaves at a time....
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Live or Die: How “One Day at a Time” Became “Forever”
February 8th 1988 was a Monday. It was under the sign of Aquarius. The US president was Ronald Reagan. I was a student in my last year at San Francisco State University. And it was the beginning of my...
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Discover Your Boundary Style
If someone asks you to do something, do you say “yes” even if you don’t want to do it? This type of behavior relates to a particular boundary style. Are you so focused on having things be the way you...
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Tall Poppy Syndrome Anyone?
G’day mates and greetings from Australia, where I have been having heaps (that is Australian for “lots”) of fun over here speaking, coaching and having some time to explore this beautiful country. I...
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Self-knowledge Can Help You Strengthen Your Romantic Relationships
Valentine’s Day has just passed – and if you’ve been thinking about the relationships in your life, you may be thinking about some questions that I often get: “How do people’s Tendencies play out in...
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Life Lessons from “Happiness is a Choice You Make”
New York Times Reporter John Leland spent a year with six New Yorkers, most of them in their 90s, for a series of articles he wrote for the newspaper on aging. His new book, “Happiness is a Choice You...
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Destiny Calls
Air stood still, suffocating the room. An eerie silence lingered in the space. Our family was being split apart. My husband Keith and I were getting a divorce. Our sixteen year old son came to live...
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Can Who You Are Become Better? (The Best of New Age Hypocrisy.)
As a lover of the guitar, I’m always under improvement. It’s a never-ending journey of leveling up, cutting away things I don’t need and refining what I feel truly sounds like me. In the beginning of...
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